CLEANUP: lists/tree-wide: rename some list operations to avoid some confusion

The current "ADD" vs "ADDQ" is confusing because when thinking in terms
of appending at the end of a list, "ADD" naturally comes to mind, but
here it does the opposite, it inserts. Several times already it's been
incorrectly used where ADDQ was expected, the latest of which was a
fortunate accident explained in 6fa922562 ("CLEANUP: stream: explain
why we queue the stream at the head of the server list").

Let's use more explicit (but slightly longer) names now:

   LIST_ADD        ->       LIST_INSERT
   LIST_ADDQ       ->       LIST_APPEND
   LIST_ADDED      ->       LIST_INLIST
   LIST_DEL        ->       LIST_DELETE

The same is true for MT_LISTs, including their "TRY" variant.
LIST_DEL_INIT keeps its short name to encourage to use it instead of the
lazier LIST_DELETE which is often less safe.

The change is large (~674 non-comment entries) but is mechanical enough
to remain safe. No permutation was performed, so any out-of-tree code
can easily map older names to new ones.

The list doc was updated.
diff --git a/src/mux_h1.c b/src/mux_h1.c
index aa885b8..e8a7d6b 100644
--- a/src/mux_h1.c
+++ b/src/mux_h1.c
@@ -448,11 +448,11 @@
 {
 	struct buffer *buf = NULL;
 
-	if (likely(!LIST_ADDED(&h1c->buf_wait.list)) &&
+	if (likely(!LIST_INLIST(&h1c->buf_wait.list)) &&
 	    unlikely((buf = b_alloc(bptr)) == NULL)) {
 		h1c->buf_wait.target = h1c;
 		h1c->buf_wait.wakeup_cb = h1_buf_available;
-		LIST_ADDQ(&ti->buffer_wq, &h1c->buf_wait.list);
+		LIST_APPEND(&ti->buffer_wq, &h1c->buf_wait.list);
 	}
 	return buf;
 }
@@ -913,7 +913,7 @@
 		}
 
 
-		if (LIST_ADDED(&h1c->buf_wait.list))
+		if (LIST_INLIST(&h1c->buf_wait.list))
 			LIST_DEL_INIT(&h1c->buf_wait.list);
 
 		h1_release_buf(h1c, &h1c->ibuf);