CLEANUP: lists/tree-wide: rename some list operations to avoid some confusion

The current "ADD" vs "ADDQ" is confusing because when thinking in terms
of appending at the end of a list, "ADD" naturally comes to mind, but
here it does the opposite, it inserts. Several times already it's been
incorrectly used where ADDQ was expected, the latest of which was a
fortunate accident explained in 6fa922562 ("CLEANUP: stream: explain
why we queue the stream at the head of the server list").

Let's use more explicit (but slightly longer) names now:

   LIST_ADD        ->       LIST_INSERT
   LIST_ADDQ       ->       LIST_APPEND
   LIST_ADDED      ->       LIST_INLIST
   LIST_DEL        ->       LIST_DELETE

The same is true for MT_LISTs, including their "TRY" variant.
LIST_DEL_INIT keeps its short name to encourage to use it instead of the
lazier LIST_DELETE which is often less safe.

The change is large (~674 non-comment entries) but is mechanical enough
to remain safe. No permutation was performed, so any out-of-tree code
can easily map older names to new ones.

The list doc was updated.
diff --git a/src/map.c b/src/map.c
index 6b5502e..041c339 100644
--- a/src/map.c
+++ b/src/map.c
@@ -330,7 +330,7 @@
 		 */
 		if (appctx->st2 == STAT_ST_LIST) {
 			if (!LIST_ISEMPTY(&appctx->ctx.map.bref.users)) {
-				LIST_DEL(&appctx->ctx.map.bref.users);
+				LIST_DELETE(&appctx->ctx.map.bref.users);
 				LIST_INIT(&appctx->ctx.map.bref.users);
 			}
 		}
@@ -359,7 +359,7 @@
 		HA_SPIN_LOCK(PATREF_LOCK, &appctx->ctx.map.ref->lock);
 
 		if (!LIST_ISEMPTY(&appctx->ctx.map.bref.users)) {
-			LIST_DEL(&appctx->ctx.map.bref.users);
+			LIST_DELETE(&appctx->ctx.map.bref.users);
 			LIST_INIT(&appctx->ctx.map.bref.users);
 		}
 
@@ -384,7 +384,7 @@
 				/* let's try again later from this stream. We add ourselves into
 				 * this stream's users so that it can remove us upon termination.
 				 */
-				LIST_ADDQ(&elt->back_refs, &appctx->ctx.map.bref.users);
+				LIST_APPEND(&elt->back_refs, &appctx->ctx.map.bref.users);
 				HA_SPIN_UNLOCK(PATREF_LOCK, &appctx->ctx.map.ref->lock);
 				si_rx_room_blk(si);
 				return 0;
@@ -635,7 +635,7 @@
 	if (appctx->st2 == STAT_ST_LIST) {
 		HA_SPIN_LOCK(PATREF_LOCK, &appctx->ctx.map.ref->lock);
 		if (!LIST_ISEMPTY(&appctx->ctx.map.bref.users))
-			LIST_DEL(&appctx->ctx.map.bref.users);
+			LIST_DELETE(&appctx->ctx.map.bref.users);
 		HA_SPIN_UNLOCK(PATREF_LOCK, &appctx->ctx.map.ref->lock);
 	}
 }