CLEANUP: lists/tree-wide: rename some list operations to avoid some confusion

The current "ADD" vs "ADDQ" is confusing because when thinking in terms
of appending at the end of a list, "ADD" naturally comes to mind, but
here it does the opposite, it inserts. Several times already it's been
incorrectly used where ADDQ was expected, the latest of which was a
fortunate accident explained in 6fa922562 ("CLEANUP: stream: explain
why we queue the stream at the head of the server list").

Let's use more explicit (but slightly longer) names now:

   LIST_ADD        ->       LIST_INSERT
   LIST_ADDQ       ->       LIST_APPEND
   LIST_ADDED      ->       LIST_INLIST
   LIST_DEL        ->       LIST_DELETE

The same is true for MT_LISTs, including their "TRY" variant.
LIST_DEL_INIT keeps its short name to encourage to use it instead of the
lazier LIST_DELETE which is often less safe.

The change is large (~674 non-comment entries) but is mechanical enough
to remain safe. No permutation was performed, so any out-of-tree code
can easily map older names to new ones.

The list doc was updated.
diff --git a/src/mailers.c b/src/mailers.c
index e614cf0..80dc7d6 100644
--- a/src/mailers.c
+++ b/src/mailers.c
@@ -46,7 +46,7 @@
 
 	if (alert->rules.list) {
 		list_for_each_entry_safe(rule, back, alert->rules.list, list) {
-			LIST_DEL(&rule->list);
+			LIST_DELETE(&rule->list);
 			free_tcpcheck(rule, 1);
 		}
 		free_tcpcheck_vars(&alert->rules.preset_vars);
@@ -74,7 +74,7 @@
 			}
 
 			alert = LIST_NEXT(&q->email_alerts, typeof(alert), list);
-			LIST_DEL(&alert->list);
+			LIST_DELETE(&alert->list);
 			t->expire             = now_ms;
 			check->tcpcheck_rules = &alert->rules;
 			check->status         = HCHK_STATUS_INI;
@@ -189,7 +189,7 @@
 	tcpcheck->action       = TCPCHK_ACT_CONNECT;
 	tcpcheck->comment      = NULL;
 
-	LIST_ADDQ(alert->rules.list, &tcpcheck->list);
+	LIST_APPEND(alert->rules.list, &tcpcheck->list);
 
 	if (!add_tcpcheck_expect_str(&alert->rules, "220 "))
 		goto error;
@@ -269,7 +269,7 @@
 
 	HA_SPIN_LOCK(EMAIL_ALERTS_LOCK, &q->lock);
 	task_wakeup(check->task, TASK_WOKEN_MSG);
-	LIST_ADDQ(&q->email_alerts, &alert->list);
+	LIST_APPEND(&q->email_alerts, &alert->list);
 	HA_SPIN_UNLOCK(EMAIL_ALERTS_LOCK, &q->lock);
 	return 1;