CLEANUP: lists/tree-wide: rename some list operations to avoid some confusion

The current "ADD" vs "ADDQ" is confusing because when thinking in terms
of appending at the end of a list, "ADD" naturally comes to mind, but
here it does the opposite, it inserts. Several times already it's been
incorrectly used where ADDQ was expected, the latest of which was a
fortunate accident explained in 6fa922562 ("CLEANUP: stream: explain
why we queue the stream at the head of the server list").

Let's use more explicit (but slightly longer) names now:

   LIST_ADD        ->       LIST_INSERT
   LIST_ADDQ       ->       LIST_APPEND
   LIST_ADDED      ->       LIST_INLIST
   LIST_DEL        ->       LIST_DELETE

The same is true for MT_LISTs, including their "TRY" variant.
LIST_DEL_INIT keeps its short name to encourage to use it instead of the
lazier LIST_DELETE which is often less safe.

The change is large (~674 non-comment entries) but is mechanical enough
to remain safe. No permutation was performed, so any out-of-tree code
can easily map older names to new ones.

The list doc was updated.
diff --git a/src/extcheck.c b/src/extcheck.c
index 808b4bb..aa342fc 100644
--- a/src/extcheck.c
+++ b/src/extcheck.c
@@ -124,7 +124,7 @@
 	LIST_INIT(&elem->list);
 
 	HA_SPIN_LOCK(PID_LIST_LOCK, &pid_list_lock);
-	LIST_ADD(&pid_list, &elem->list);
+	LIST_INSERT(&pid_list, &elem->list);
 	HA_SPIN_UNLOCK(PID_LIST_LOCK, &pid_list_lock);
 
 	return elem;
@@ -138,7 +138,7 @@
 		return;
 
 	HA_SPIN_LOCK(PID_LIST_LOCK, &pid_list_lock);
-	LIST_DEL(&elem->list);
+	LIST_DELETE(&elem->list);
 	HA_SPIN_UNLOCK(PID_LIST_LOCK, &pid_list_lock);
 
 	if (!elem->exited)