CLEANUP: lists/tree-wide: rename some list operations to avoid some confusion

The current "ADD" vs "ADDQ" is confusing because when thinking in terms
of appending at the end of a list, "ADD" naturally comes to mind, but
here it does the opposite, it inserts. Several times already it's been
incorrectly used where ADDQ was expected, the latest of which was a
fortunate accident explained in 6fa922562 ("CLEANUP: stream: explain
why we queue the stream at the head of the server list").

Let's use more explicit (but slightly longer) names now:

   LIST_ADD        ->       LIST_INSERT
   LIST_ADDQ       ->       LIST_APPEND
   LIST_ADDED      ->       LIST_INLIST
   LIST_DEL        ->       LIST_DELETE

The same is true for MT_LISTs, including their "TRY" variant.
LIST_DEL_INIT keeps its short name to encourage to use it instead of the
lazier LIST_DELETE which is often less safe.

The change is large (~674 non-comment entries) but is mechanical enough
to remain safe. No permutation was performed, so any out-of-tree code
can easily map older names to new ones.

The list doc was updated.
diff --git a/addons/ot/src/conf.c b/addons/ot/src/conf.c
index 626d418..71db967 100644
--- a/addons/ot/src/conf.c
+++ b/addons/ot/src/conf.c
@@ -67,7 +67,7 @@
 		retptr->cfg_line = linenum;
 
 		if (head != NULL)
-			LIST_ADDQ(head, &(retptr->list));
+			LIST_APPEND(head, &(retptr->list));
 	} else {
 		FLT_OT_ERR("out of memory");
 	}
@@ -680,7 +680,7 @@
 	}
 	FLT_OT_DBG(2, "- deleting proxy_log.logsrvs list %s", flt_ot_list_debug(&((*ptr)->proxy_log.logsrvs)));
 	list_for_each_entry_safe(logsrv, logsrvback, &((*ptr)->proxy_log.logsrvs), list) {
-		LIST_DEL(&(logsrv->list));
+		LIST_DELETE(&(logsrv->list));
 		FLT_OT_FREE(logsrv);
 	}
 	FLT_OT_LIST_DESTROY(ph_group, &((*ptr)->ph_groups));